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I had planned to title this post “It’s time to show some love”, then it occured to me that there really should’t be a time to not show love.Today is Valentine Eve(is there anything like that?).Within the next twenty four hours, many will be “caught” in a web of activities.

Many are yet to find answers to their questions…

“What size is she?”

“Would he like prefer the Breitling watch to the Mont Blanc pen?”

“Will the cake be ready by this time tommorow.”

“Is he going to ask me out tommorow?”

“Is she going to buy me any gift?”

You probably identify with one or two of those questions.

My argument here is not about those questions.

My goal isn’t to provide an answer to any of them.

My goal is to shift your paradigm so you come to thepoint where you can say “Even if…”

“Even if he doesn’t buy me the perfume, I will still show some love.”

“Even if she doesn’t say ‘yes’”, I’ll still show some love.

Love is a powerful thing.

It is not an emotion.It is a decision.

It’s unfortunate that most people think lust is love.How erroneous!

They are worlds apart.I hope to dedicate a post to this theme some other time but for now we must understand that TRUE LOVE is UNCONDITIONAL.

LOVE loves inspite of…imperfections…weaknesses…failure.

LOVE doesn’t wait for reciprocation.

LOVE is stable.

The only thing directly used to describe GOD is Love.

So…go out of your way to show some love.As you buy that gift for your spouse or fiancee, take out time to buy a lil’ somthin’ for someone who may never be able to reciprocate.

Don’t just spend your fortune on those who are in a position to say  thank you.Do something for those who may never be able to.It may not even be a tangible gift.It could be time…attention…a listening ear.

That’s a good way to show some love.

1.Identify God’s purpose for your life.

Today, I was privileged to witness the celebration of an icon.

My mentor and spiritual leader, Pastor Paul Adefarasin was appreciated by the House On The Rock, an organisation he has served so faithfully the last decade and a half.

I have learnt so many things from him and I’m still learning.He is an agent of change.He has empowered millions of people through his messages and ministry.

He is seen on television in different parts of the world.

He has written books that encourage people he might never meet on this side of eternity.

He has inspired thousands of people to start their businesses and strengthen their communities.

Above all,  he has led so many people to the light.Through Him , many people can stare death in the face assured that they will spend eternity with God and not in the fiery pits of hell.

I said all that to say this-you can never increase your value  except you first identify the reason you are on earth.You must have a clear definition of your purpose.I don’t know what you have been told prior to this time but you are not on earth for nothing.You are here for a specific purpose.A definite reason.You have a clear-cut assignment.A value-adding mission and you will not find fulfilment no matter how much money you have until you find and begin to fulfill your purpose.It’s only God that can accurately communicate your purpose to you.So ask Him to reveal it to you today.

2.Invest In Yourself.

Many people spend a lot of money on clothes, cars and other perishables.

Others spend their hard-earned cash on things that have no value.

You have to realise that other people are busy trying to fulfill their purposes (or fantasies) and you have a responsibility to invest in yourself.

Invest in your spirit.

Invest in your health.

Invest in your looks.

Improve your communication skills.

After you have identified your purpose, invest in yourself as much as you can so that you can fulfill that purpose.

3.Invest in Others.

People who are selfish never enjoy true greatness.

If you are all about what you can do, where you can go, what you can buy, what you should own…you …you…you..blah…blah(excuse me), you can never be truly great.

Your vision has to be greater than personal comfort for you to be great.

If you want to increase your value, enrich others.Increase the quality of other people’s lives.

Give out some of your clothes.

Give out some of your money.You might not be able to give billions of dollars to charity like Bill Gates but may be the few dollars you give to that person in need around you today may mean a billion to them.

Show some love.

Slow down today and increase the value of someone’s life and by that simple act, you would have increased your own value significantly.

Isn’t it amazing that we seem to enjoy waiting for everything to fall in place before we do what we know we ought to do?

We wait to feel better before we accept that we are healed.

We wait for goose pimples before we admit that we believe.

We  wait to feel better before we encourage others.

We wait to make more money before we give.

We wait to be appreciated before we celebrate others.

We wait to be motivated before we reach for our dreams.

We wait to have the contacts and connections before we start the business.

We wait to be fired before we release the enterpreneurs in us.

We wait for  financial crises before we take responsibility for our finances.

We wait for the doctor’s diagnosis before we take care of our health.

We wait for birthdays and christmas before we celebrate and celebrate with people.

We wait for the government to fix the Nation.

We wait for our spouses to provide what we should also contribute towards.

We wait for our kids to be better before we become better parents.

We wait for the pastor to preach until his nose bleeds before we obey God,

We wait for…

Ok.Seems I’ve been talking to much.Tell me.What are you waiting for?

On a serious note, I really want to know.