I attended an event hosted by Avenues To Wealth (which I’m a part of) about two years ago and the Real Estate Investor, Dolf De Roos was speaking. He said many things worth remembering but this one stood out: “The only failure in life is the failure to participate”
We could spend the next 24 hours arguing about the accuracy of that statement but I’d rather focus on the key thought-If you participate, you may or may not win but if you don’t participate, you are bound to fail.
You may have heard stories of that bride who didn’t show up on her wedding day.
After all her emotional and financial investments; after all her countless conversations with family members, bridesmaids and wedding planners; after several months of planning, preparing and positioning herself for her wedding day, she decided that she was not ready; that something didn’t FEEL right; that she needed more time to work out a few issues. That may seem to be a form of cowardice.
This bride has had her share of bashing.
People say things like “What was she thinking before?”
“Didn’t she know all that before”
“Someone must have cast a spell on her”
“An enemy has done this!”
Most people become inflamed with anger when the bride doesn’t show up- especially the “stakeholders”- family and friends.
I understand that but if we take a closer look, may be we will realise that her not showing up was not a form of cowardice but an uncommon display of bravery- being strong enough to admit that she was not strong enough to go on…being bold enough to say that she was scared… being honest enough to admit that she hadn’t been honest enough. Maybe her decision was not a form of fear but a form of faith that what seemed like a dumb decision was actually her wisest decision ever.
That may not always be the case but it is in many cases.
However you interpret that, I’d like you to consider this-the real coward is not the bride that doesn’t show up on the wedding day.
The real coward is the bride who turns up looking every inch a goddess- sleek hair, supple skin, glowing lips, dazzling visage, gorgeous gown yet DOESN’T SHOW UP in the marriage.
She says the vows and possibly even sheds a tear- overwhelmed by the grandeur of her wedding yet she doesn’t show up as a wife who caters to her husband and assists him to create an unbelievably fulfilling life for them and their children. She shows up as a fashion model on the wedding day but doesn’t show up as a model of faith, faithfulness and fortitude in the marriage.
I mean no disrespect but this bride is more of a coward than the first bride.
Life is more than the glitz and glamour of a single day. It’s about growing through the grind of daily demands.
Please understand that while you can apply this in a literal sense, I use it as a metaphor. It’s not just a message for the ladies. It is a message to men also- single and married.
It is a call to commitment.
It’s not enough to sign up as a volunteer, show up to do the work.
It’s not enough to launch your new product, show up to market it.
It’s not enough to record the demo, show up in the studio again and again until you have a complete album. Then get copies of it into as many networks as you can.
Smile when you have the outline for your first book or first speech but don’t be a runaway bride (or writer), see it through.
Don’t just become “BORN AGAIN’. That’s a good start but start growing in grace- meditating on the word and developing strong bonds of faith with other believers.
It is better to reconsider and reconsolidate than to dive in with excitement without following through with commitment.
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